D***I
发帖数: 1957 | 1 我一点不upset
倒是你确实很upset
因为我说了事实，让你不爽 |
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u***n
发帖数: 21026 | 2 你说的也对，谢谢
麻烦你给我一个机会，你下次有什么upset的时候，告诉我一声，让我也这样狠狠踩你
两脚
别告诉大家你一生当中没有upset过，那我会很遗憾没有这个机会的 |
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L*1
发帖数: 11537 | 3 你这些都没有错，但可以用更客观，平和，不带感情色彩的语言，会显得更
professional。不要“upset”。Ebay不会因为你“upset”就跟向着你的，而更可能是
相反。
on |
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w******o
发帖数: 3259 | 4 一会天安门一会tibet的，今天足足纠缠了20多分钟。这学生是一army出来的壮汉，极
其偏激。他没法说服我承认中国是世界上最evil的政权，很upset。我也很upset。 |
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p********2
发帖数: 9939 | 5 还有教授对我说，学生跑来说：你去哪里了呵～～～～～～～～～～～～你不是
promise我们一切都会变的吗？？？？？？？怎么啦呵怎么啦呵？你要回来呵！
结果教授又要帮我教课了。他狠upset，说比我还upset。
我是没希望了吗 |
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p********2
发帖数: 9939 | 6 还有教授对我说，学生跑来说：你去哪里了呵～～～～～～～～～～～～你不是
promise我们一切都会变的吗？？？？？？？怎么啦呵怎么啦呵？你要回来呵！
结果教授又要帮我教课了。他狠upset，说比我还upset。
我是没希望了吗 |
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a***8
发帖数: 4735 | 7 Sometime, i do feeling down and upset about my work. My work is too
demanding and stressful. I have a toddler at home and hire a nanny to take
care of her (That cost about half of my pay check). But everytime i am upset about my job, i will thinking about my LG, i don't
want to put all the burden on his shoulder, since if i become a stay at home mom,
he is going to be the only bread winner for our home, and i want to help him.
So LZ just put yourself into your LG's shoes, if you quit your jo... 阅读全帖 |
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g********5
发帖数: 62 | 8 我的一个roommate曾经跟好几个ICC面试过（面试前都不知道
这样的公司是ICC)拿到它们的所谓"offer"以及相应的“秘密协议”
这个“秘密协议”才揭开了它们的真面目：限制很多，盘剥更多
（去别的公司打工的薪水的40%要给ICC)
这种ICC面试的时候都不问技术问题，就像跟你聊家常一样。
roommate拿了"offer letter" 和协议书跟学校career
sevrice 的人咨询，里面的人非常upset这个ICC以及它们的
协议，当知道其中有的公司还参加过学校的招聘会，说以后
不会让这样的公司再来这里招人的。
如果你也有和这样的黑心ICC接触的话，告诉学校的career service
可能就一种方法---黑心ICC招人更难了。
另一种方法需要已经拿到H1B签证并且也曾经和ICC面试过
收到这种黑心协议的同学，可以给USCIS和美国国会议员及
政府官员传真这种黑心ICC的协议。相信看到的人都会很
upset. 这样ICC们的日子就不好过了。
这种ICC其实根本就是钻空子的剥削公司，根本不是正经的
CC. |
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W*******l
发帖数: 222 | 9 ☆─────────────────────────────────────☆
GlacierMin (秦皇汉武) 于 (Sat Sep 17 22:24:44 2011, 美东) 提到:
我爸妈偶尔用落地晒衣架把衣服晾在阳台上。今天某个邻居丢了一个纸条。我看了以后
非常生气。字里行间充满了种族歧视。原文如下：
This is Not China...its the GOOD be USA(还双线画上了USA)!!
According to the Bylaws...you can not (画上了下划线)DRY/HANG clothes on your
balcony!
I am tired of seeing your laundry...takes away from the beauty of the
building. Please take care of today!
首句中就stereotype China and Chinese，让我非常不爽！靠，咱中国可是美国人的债
主！我仔细查阅了我的lease，里面只是说"may not"而不是"can not"。两个... 阅读全帖 |
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j***u
发帖数: 112 | 10 转发别人的东西, 写的太好了!
除了签电子请愿书，组织游行示威外，我们每个人都还可以做以下方面的努力：
一。 写信或打电话给你们孩子的学校（给班主任homeroom teacher, 学校咨询师
counselor, 校长super-intendent)。 告诉他们 你和你的孩子都感觉 十分不安：
deeply troubled, deeply upset, deeply offensed, and deeply concerned!
Jimmy 的言行给你的孩子埋下了阴影，让你的孩子失去了安全感和信任感，担心同学会
take words into action. 强烈要求学校对此事展开正确的教育、讨论和咨询 （
provide school-wide discussion and education against potential prejudice,
hatred and discrimination based on racial differences; provide school-wide
discussion and education against any for... 阅读全帖 |
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c********e
发帖数: 496 | 11 Dont upset, easy.
这里每天都有问病的，基本上不可能每个都来一个全套病史的，更别说体检了，所以这
里也就是一些建议，说对了也许有一点帮助， 说错了，大家纠正，对自己也是一个提
高。如果这样你就upset了，去joke版好了，那里relax。 |
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a***8
发帖数: 4735 | 12 It is so weired that my nanny can drive me crazy. I 've read so many posts
about mom in law story, but me and my mom in law can get along so good.
There let me share my story of my nanny.
I have hired a nanny for about two years from now. She is a nice lady
taking good care of my baby and my baby loves her a lot, and she never touch
or moved anything valuable in our house. These are the reasons why we are
still hire her. However, my husband and my parents in law insist that my
daughter should ... 阅读全帖 |
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m*****d
发帖数: 566 | 13 No no no, 你误会了，我不是指的你。不是你的帖子本身upset people, 而是这个
topic，只要宝宝坛，父母坛存在一天，这个争论就不会停止，某些人upset另些人就不
会停止。
而且，永远谁也说服不了谁，只是打打嘴仗罢了。我呢，今天就是太闲了罢了。mm千
万别介意。
criticize |
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p*********e
发帖数: 141 | 15 I didn't get to read your original post. But if you are really in trouble,
there are MANY ways to get help, other than the bbs.
You can get WIC, medical for your kids and cash assistance, as well as food
stamps. Check out your state's department of human services and they can
usually get you some help within a week, if not a day. You can get as much
as 2000+ a month from them for all 3 of you.
You still have internet connection, you might even be able to apply online.
There is no need to cry... 阅读全帖 |
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m******t
发帖数: 51 | 16 小朋友，男孩，说话很早，在家只讲中文，用中文可以做简单交流。
小朋友5/16号开始上daycare，英文的。
第一周，上Mon,Wed,Fri,全天，痛苦，挣扎，狂哭。
第二周，生病，只去了Fri全天，依然煎熬，猛哭。
第三周，Mon,Tue,Wed,Thur,每天半天，Fri全天，Mon-Thur还是hard time,Fri 老师说
，”He is doing good.", 确实是，我感觉得到。
第四周，生病，去了Thur,Fri全天，送的时候呼天抢地，接的时候也是在哭。
第五周，整周都去了，还是一样，送的时候狂哭（从出门开始一直到到达，就重复着说
“不去幼儿园”），接的时候也是在哭。
问老师，老师说，基本上我走后哭一阵就不哭了，然后整天都挺happy，接下来看到有
家长去接小孩就开始upset,开始找lunchbox嘴里喊着妈妈，抽泣着，准备回家。老师给
他玩点东西，他就被occupy一会，但玩完就开始哭，upset.我去接他的时候他看到我就
大声哭，似乎在宣泄一天的委屈。
自己总结一下原因，
1、小朋友从没上过daycare,和其他小朋友也很少一起玩过，怕生。
2、小朋友很会... 阅读全帖 |
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g****9
发帖数: 1403 | 17 Red 40 is a commonly used food coloring dye added to a variety of products.
While it may make food esthetically pleasing in appearance, it can cause a
negative reaction in those who consume it.
Children are most often the ones who have sensitivity to red 40, whether or
not their parents have realized it or not. Reactions include temper tantrums
, hyperactivity, aggressive behavior, uncontrollable crying and screaming,
kicking, nervousness, dizziness, inability to concentrate and sit still
among ... 阅读全帖 |
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C********r
发帖数: 145 | 18 Breastmilk can stay up to 4-6 hrs in room temp(<22 degree). And maybe longer
...
Once I was so scared that my mother in law fed the baby some leftover
breastmilk which has been left outside for more than 12 hours by mistake(
she thought I pumped it in the morning). I called doctors and feeding hot
lines, they said do not worry too much , maybe baby will have diarrhea and
some stomach upset. I felt so guilty...
But luckily, he was fine, no stomach upset, no diarrhea. Maybe because it's
only 1 OZ... 阅读全帖 |
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f*****e
发帖数: 1889 | 19 无语了, 这样的妈妈和婆婆 ...
感觉MM一方面反感妈妈控制欲太强, 一方面又凡事告诉妈妈, 给妈妈发表意见(控制你)
的机会.不知道是不是一直被控制惯了, 潜意识里一直在寻求妈妈的认同. 妈妈不认同
的时候就UPSET, 发生争吵.
你LG上厕所那段, 你不告诉妈妈, 她怎么可能知道?
尝试一下自己(和LG)作主一切事情, 事先不和长辈商量. 让自己和妈妈习惯这种模式.
而不是事先请示, 希望父母和你观点一致, 不一致就UPSET, 然后仍然选择坚持自己的. |
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w******0
发帖数: 4472 | 20 这个我帮忙补充一下背景：
楼主老公半夜用了卫生纸，但是娃睡觉轻所以没敢冲水，早上姥姥上厕所发现了
卫生纸，然后大闹全天，害的老公不敢回家。。。
--------
大家看看我这记忆力如何。：）
无语了, 这样的妈妈和婆婆 ...
感觉MM一方面反感妈妈控制欲太强, 一方面又凡事告诉妈妈, 给妈妈发表意见(控制你)
的机会.不知道是不是一直被控制惯了, 潜意识里一直在寻求妈妈的认同. 妈妈不认同
的时候就UPSET, 发生争吵.
你LG上厕所那段, 你不告诉妈妈, 她怎么可能知道?
尝试一下自己(和LG)作主一切事情, 事先不和长辈商量. 让自己和妈妈习惯这种模式.
而不是事先请示, 希望父母和你观点一致, 不一致就UPSET, 然后仍然选择坚持自己的. |
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w*********i
发帖数: 44 | 21 来自主题: NextGeneration版 - 家有小娃厌奶 拍嗝和肚子里的气不是一回事，肚子里的气是肠胃消化奶或奶粉产生的，不是拍嗝可以
拍出来的。和大人肚子胀气一样，并不是有嗝。
as I said, another reason could be digest problem. A upset stomach.
Actually 我们的儿医推荐了
1. gripe water (for colic, upset stomach, gas etc)
2. mylicon gas drop (for just gas)
在 walgreen 等都有卖的。 For our case, it seems gripe water really worked,
which means she had digest problem. My baby also released some gas after
take the gas drop. But didn't relief her much during her sleep. Each baby
is different. You need to try and find ou... 阅读全帖 |
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S**P
发帖数: 1290 | 22 It's all because of small things: he was complaining things were not clean
or not sorted well, I didn't make the home very "attractive", etc.
He didn't yell, just said those words like a normal talk. But I was very
upset when he complained. Because we are long distance and I am pregnant. I
also need to work for a long time. It's a lot of stress. I feel I need to
get good food and have good rest first, and also I need to relax, make
myself feel happy instead of depressed. The priority of ke... 阅读全帖 |
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g*****k
发帖数: 35 | 23 1. CG 教小妹妹拼puzzle，小妹妹不是很认真（一岁半的小妹妹理解不了四岁哥哥的高
深提示），CG说："小妹妹，你不好好拼的话，我会get upset，puzzle 也会 get
upset 的！"
2. CG 在朋友家玩得不想回家，爸爸凶了他一下才回了家。晚上爸爸给CG刷牙的时候，
CG对爸爸说：”你是最凶的爸爸in the world。" 顿了顿又说：”你是最凶的爸爸in
North America。" 后来我问CG: "The world 大还是North America 大？“ CG 回答:"
North America 大。"
3. 门外（玻璃门）有只狗，对着家里叫。小妹妹吓得哭起来了。CG 对小妹妹说：“别
哭别哭，我们不怕狗，狗怕我们的！” |
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s****y
发帖数: 3416 | 24 In movie theater, there is always a rule to ask audience to take out upset
children.
They don't even need to give an explanation. Because they should not be
there making noises.
I really don't like those parents who hesitate to take out their children
who were upset or making noises, especially in Chinese events. In American
events, this is extremely rare because they will take them out right away.
If this happens again I almost wanted to walk over and say please get the f*
ck out!
hehe...i know... 阅读全帖 |
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w*****4
发帖数: 3902 | 25 春节前断断续续上了一阵子，娃还没完全适应，就跟我回国了。这周开始上。因为担心
他在那里不吃东
西不喝牛奶和水（一方面老师是新老师，小朋友大多也不认识，胆小就不敢吃也不敢要
；另一方面食物
也不习惯），我就给他在家吃早饭，也就是一杯奶，跟平时早晨一样。但他因为害怕哭
的厉害，第一天
就哭吐了（以前上的时候也经常哭吐，唉。。。），还是吃完半小时后才去的，昨天没
吐，老师说他上
午情绪很不好，中午也就是睡了不到一个小时，出来playground还好，接的时候都是看
见就哭着走过
来，很委屈的样子。今天早上吃奶时还好好的，吃完就开始不停滴说“不去上学”。真
不知道该怎么处
理，说上学会有小朋友一起玩，今天是bubble day，小朋友长大了都要上学，还有xx
和 xx 小朋友
也去上学，他根本听不进去，昨天趁他没有特别upset的时候问他，他说害怕，问他怕
谁，他说怕老
师，说老师很好，还老表扬他，怎么说也解除不了他的恐惧心理。骗他开车出去玩才好
歹骗上车，但骗
人的法子觉得他明白了就不好了，不知道昨天是不是因为觉得爸爸妈妈骗他才那么
upset。可有什么别
的办法呢？不过他这两天放学倒是除了... 阅读全帖 |
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m******t
发帖数: 51 | 26 小朋友，男孩，说话很早，在家只讲中文，用中文可以做简单交流。
小朋友5/16号开始上daycare，英文的。
第一周，上Mon,Wed,Fri,全天，痛苦，挣扎，狂哭。
第二周，生病，只去了Fri全天，依然煎熬，猛哭。
第三周，Mon,Tue,Wed,Thur,每天半天，Fri全天，Mon-Thur还是hard time,Fri 老师说
，”He is doing good.", 确实是，我感觉得到。
第四周，生病，去了Thur,Fri全天，送的时候呼天抢地，接的时候也是在哭。
第五周，整周都去了，还是一样，送的时候狂哭（从出门开始一直到到达，就重复着说
“不去幼儿园”），接的时候也是在哭。
问老师，老师说，基本上我走后哭一阵就不哭了，然后整天都挺happy，接下来看到有
家长去接小孩就开始upset,开始找lunchbox嘴里喊着妈妈，抽泣着，准备回家。老师给
他玩点东西，他就被occupy一会，但玩完就开始哭，upset.我去接他的时候他看到我就
大声哭，似乎在宣泄一天的委屈。
自己总结一下原因，
1、小朋友从没上过daycare,和其他小朋友也很少一起玩过，怕生。
2、小朋友很会... 阅读全帖 |
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p*******e
发帖数: 986 | 27 【 以下文字转载自 Jan2010_baby 俱乐部 】
发信人: powerwave (YY, My heart!), 信区: Jan2010_baby
标 题: Psychological Immunity (ZZ)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Sep 7 16:23:21 2011, 美东)
This is a great article to read:
Consider a toddler who’s running in the park and trips on a rock, Bohn says
. Some parents swoop in immediately, pick up the toddler, and comfort her in
that moment of shock, before she even starts crying. But, Bohn explains,
this actually prevents her from feeling secure—not just on the playground,
but in l... 阅读全帖 |
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w*****4
发帖数: 3902 | 28 一个比他小几个月的中国小姑娘。儿子已经抱怨过几次了，说她打他的头，力度多大不
得而知，至少他是不喜欢的，不然他不会那个口气跟我说，还对他说过几次“不喜欢你
”。后来我亲自遇到也有两次，都是早上刚到教室的时候，毫无缘由的，上来就说“我
不喜欢你”，一次是早饭已经过了她跑过来很upset样子，一次是在饭桌上。很没礼貌
，没教养的感觉。老师听不懂她说中文，但看表情知道有问题，说他俩经常玩的不好，
她就把他们分开玩，她也不知道她为什么upset.今天儿子又抱怨她打他头，在
playground遇到她家，也确认了，我当时脸色已经不好看，她爸爸竟然还说小孩子就是
打打闹闹，连句道歉的话也没有，真让人生气。就算是打打闹闹，小孩子手没有轻重，
要是我家孩子这么经常打打你家女儿的头，又如何呢？每天刚去上学就过来跟你说“我
不喜欢你”，又如何呢？孩子不懂事也就罢了，大人也不明白事理。 |
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l*****r
发帖数: 7130 | 29 从你的叙述里面，感觉不出孩子有敌意啊，估计也就是玩游戏？我们家孩子有时候也会
玩类似的，假装爸爸妈妈是monster，悄悄接近然后一哄而散那种。小孩子嘛，你高兴
了陪他们玩一下，不高兴就跟他们说不要玩这个。没必要get upset而且让人觉得你
upset了吧。 |
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w*********e
发帖数: 383 | 30 大家说的都挺好的，我补充一个文章吧：
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/articles
看Trouble with Aggression下面的文章。
其中 Bad Words from Good kids 里提到这种解释：（后面有详细解决方法）
When children use harsh language, they may not understand what the words
mean literally: it’s the tone that makes an imprint on them, and it’s the
tone that raises parental warning flags. That electric emotional charge
irritates the child's delicate internal system, and makes the words stick
like little globs of muck in their innocent minds. Then, when the... 阅读全帖 |
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y****i
发帖数: 5690 | 31 孩子肯定是一个很一个不一样 有的容易些 有的难引导些
牙刷的问题 首先我家就只有一个牙刷 没有这个问题 嘿嘿
你也许下次就提前问好 让他自己做主？
这样的孩子可能一方面主观愿望很强烈 所以得不到满足 就FRUSTRATION LEVEL很高
然后她还没有学会表达的方法
每次MELT DOWN 冷静之后 抱着她 好好说
先说 妈妈知道你不喜欢紫色牙刷 所以你生气了（RECOGNIZE她的情绪 第一步）
然后说 可是那样发脾气 是不解决问题的 这样让妈妈也很UPSET 你自己也UPSET （第二
步 SET BOUNDARY）
最后讨论 下一次这样的情况 你可不可以以不生气 告诉妈妈你要什么 妈妈尽可能满足
愿望（SOLUTION 也可以让孩子加入讨论 提出来她觉得WORK的SOLUTION） |
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l*****o
发帖数: 234 | 32 If he wants to talk to you afterward, can you just discuss with him: what
was he thinking just now? what made him uncomfortable in the class? I think
you can express your upset as well. My son is 2, but sometimes if I show
upset, he will understand he's wrong and try to behave. Not sure about 4
year old though, no experience... :) |
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n********h
发帖数: 13135 | 33 如果这男孩子欺负所有人，就该联合所有家长，把这男孩子赶走。
“我曾经问过我女儿为什么不报告老师，她说：I don't want my teacher to be
upset.她是一个sweet的孩子”
我觉得你应该想想孩子为啥会有这样的相法，到底是幼儿园教育出来的，还是家庭造成
的。如果是幼儿园造成的，离开没商量。如果是家庭的原因，你要反思一下。SWEET不
等于不保护自己。你愿意你家女儿被BULLY也不反抗，就为了老师开心？你愿意你女儿
牺牲自己一个，造福老师和其他同学？
你家老二是男孩？
upset. |
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m******s
发帖数: 367 | 34 老师当晚就回信了，我也贴过来
Dear XX,
I'm so sorry to hear that LY is feeling picked on at school. I will say
that both boys have strong personalities and I have seen them get upset with
one another before, but this is the first I am hearing that LY is feeling
scared or unsafe around Mojoe. LY acts very tough at school, and he is not
hesitant to speak his mind, so I think it can be easy to overlook that he is
still very sensitive to hurtful words and touches. I thank you so much for
bringing it to my attent... 阅读全帖 |
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L********o
发帖数: 81 | 35 老师态度不错。
老师当晚就回信了，我也贴过来
Dear XX,
I'm so sorry to hear that LY is feeling picked on at school. I will say
that both boys have strong personalities and I have seen them get upset with
one another before, but this is the first I am hearing that LY is feeling
scared or unsafe around Mojoe. LY acts very tough at school, and he is not
hesitant to speak his mind, so I think it can be easy to overlook that he is
still very sensitive to hurtful words and touches. I thank you so much for
bringing it to ... 阅读全帖 |
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m******s
发帖数: 367 | 36 老师当晚就回信了，我也贴过来
Dear XX,
I'm so sorry to hear that LY is feeling picked on at school. I will say
that both boys have strong personalities and I have seen them get upset with
one another before, but this is the first I am hearing that LY is feeling
scared or unsafe around Mojoe. LY acts very tough at school, and he is not
hesitant to speak his mind, so I think it can be easy to overlook that he is
still very sensitive to hurtful words and touches. I thank you so much for
bringing it to my attent... 阅读全帖 |
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L********o
发帖数: 81 | 37 老师态度不错。
老师当晚就回信了，我也贴过来
Dear XX,
I'm so sorry to hear that LY is feeling picked on at school. I will say
that both boys have strong personalities and I have seen them get upset with
one another before, but this is the first I am hearing that LY is feeling
scared or unsafe around Mojoe. LY acts very tough at school, and he is not
hesitant to speak his mind, so I think it can be easy to overlook that he is
still very sensitive to hurtful words and touches. I thank you so much for
bringing it to ... 阅读全帖 |
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B*********y
发帖数: 266 | 38 除了签电子请愿书，组织游行示威外，我们每个人都还可以做以下方面的努力：
一。 写信或打电话给你们孩子的学校（给班主任homeroom teacher, 学校咨询师
counselor, 校长super-intendent)。 告诉他们 你和你的孩子都感觉 十分不安：
deeply troubled, deeply upset, deeply offensed, and deeply concerned!
Jimmy 的言行给你的孩子埋下了阴影，让你的孩子失去了安全感和信任感，担心同学会
take words into action. 强烈要求学校对此事展开正确的教育、讨论和咨询 （
provide school-wide discussion and education against potential prejudice,
hatred and discrimination based on racial differences; provide school-wide
discussion and education against any form of vio... 阅读全帖 |
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m***m
发帖数: 1158 | 39 很赞同这个同学说的，有孩子的可以这样做：
发信人: BunnyNPiggy (兔子猪), 信区: USANews
标 题: 关于Jimmy 事件：我们每个人还可以这样做：
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Mon Oct 28 15:39:35 2013, 美东)
除了签电子请愿书，组织游行示威外，我们每个人都还可以做以下方面的努力：
一。 写信或打电话给你们孩子的学校（给班主任homeroom teacher, 学校咨询师
counselor, 校长super-intendent)。 告诉他们 你和你的孩子都感觉 十分不安：
deeply troubled, deeply upset, deeply offensed, and deeply concerned!
Jimmy 的言行给你的孩子埋下了阴影，让你的孩子失去了安全感和信任感，担心同学会
take words into action. 强烈要求学校对此事展开正确的教育、讨论和咨询 （
provide school-wide discussion and education against potential p... 阅读全帖 |
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W*****e
发帖数: 384 | 40 I don't really think the issue here is verbal abuse or not.
5 year old still wet bed, it in itself is bigger than everything you listed
here. Check into it first.
I do not agree that your wife is upset when your son wets his bed. You are
right, it is out of his control. But why is she upset? What is the cause.
There are plenty of suggestions already. Maybe change the way it is
handled? Can you put a layer of plastic on his bed, then sheets. Then add
another layer of plastic and sheet... 阅读全帖 |
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e*******r
发帖数: 275 | 41 老大马上6岁, 上K. 晚上睡觉前帮她做project, 这次是做有关river otter的research
, 包括habitat, life cycle, 等等, 有个地方娃想画个river otter的图, 我就在网上
找了个简笔画, 娃照着画了一次,画不像,我就教她不用一口气画出 样子来,可以分开先
画个头,然后身子,尾巴,然后在具体细节画眼睛鼻子的,我画出来的娃也不满意,然后就
开始upset, 让她再试试,她就怎么都不愿意,很生气的说I can’t do anything, I
just can’t do anything, you are not teaching me anything. 我跟她解释一次画
不好你再画一次,你不能这么快就frustrated, 有困难就要make effort. 她完全听不进
去. 我说那好吧你不愿意画,那明天在家没事的时候再试试. 然后就说该关灯睡觉了.当
时是8点50了, 她们平时8点半睡,她就拿本书要我读, 我说不读了, 该睡觉了, 而且今
天是跟姥姥说好了用晚上睡前读书的时间来做project,因为白天我不在,姥姥也看不懂
pr... 阅读全帖 |
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S*******l
发帖数: 4637 | 42 简单几句话就解决了。你和他磨他就以为还有余地。下次还要这样来磨试图让你同意他
的行为。
就几句话简单明了说明没有余地就完了。
Rule are rules. We follow rules.You should not break rules just because some
other kids did it. It doesn't matter whether he will be upset or you are
upset, you cannot break rules.Your whining won't change it. That's the end
of this discussion.
然后孩子还继续就说已经说清楚了不可改变，不继续讨论了。
一般孩子也就停止了，知道没用。可能会哭哭啼啼，也不要心软，该干嘛干嘛。 |
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g*********9
发帖数: 3528 | 43 "我非常upset"
这有什么upset的，孩子自己有思想有想法不肯做，医生也见得多了下次sedation，那
就下次再做好了。下次再不肯，你要么下狠手死死抱住(是的我干过），要么再下次(不
要negative experience也对），要不就全麻。实在不行就只好让牙齿蛀了反正要换牙
的。
父母就是一个养娃的agent，只有好好干好本分内的事，可不敢挑客户的错。 |
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c*******g
发帖数: 35 | 44 孩子对于巴黎事件的反应是正常的。很多专业组织（比如美国学校心理学会）都发表了
相关文章给家长和老师提供具体的建议。下面是从他们网页上复制来的
Helping Children Cope With Terrorism - Tips for Families and Educators
Intentional acts of violence that hurt innocent people are frightening and
upsetting. Children and youth will look to adults for information and
guidance on how to react. Families and school personnel can help children
cope first and foremost by establishing a sense of safety and security. As
information becomes available, adults can continue to help child... 阅读全帖 |
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a***s
发帖数: 5417 | 45 Once, I was upset over something and the mood might be written on my face
since I seldom conceal my feelings. A very good friend of mine (white) told
me that she felt sorry that XXXX said that to me. Obviously she mistaken the
source of my frustration. I asked her: "what?"
She asked back, "You don't know? If you don't know, then I wouldn't tell. It
'll make you more upset. It's better for you to ignore."
I told her, "Please let me know. I would not feel comfortable if XXXX has
bad impression ove... 阅读全帖 |
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y***n
发帖数: 912 | 46 N 470 is used for NATURALIZATION WHILE WORKING ABROAD FOR AN AMERICAN FIRM.
That sounds great, right? But, one restriction clause may upset you, it
upset me already. You MUST meet the uninterrupted 365 day requirement! The
following blog explains it well.
http://blog.cyrusmehta.com/2011/03/naturalization-while-working
Therefore, don't travel internationally after you get your green card until
you stay in the US > 365 days. Otherwise, you may regret someday when you
want to file N 470. |
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b******k
发帖数: 2321 | 47 这个470似乎对大多数人没啥用处啊。470只能preserve continuous residence，不能
替代physical presence。
N 470 is used for NATURALIZATION WHILE WORKING ABROAD FOR AN AMERICAN FIRM.
That sounds great, right? But, one restriction clause may upset you, it
upset me already. You MUST meet the uninterrupted 365 day requirement! The
following blog explains it well.
http://blog.cyrusmehta.com/2011/03/naturalization-while-working
Therefore, don't travel internationally after you get your green card until
you stay in the US > 365 d... 阅读全帖 |
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N********n
发帖数: 8363 | 48
Nah, it's deeper than that. Essentially it's a bunch of jerks looking for
loopholes to shove their own loss onto someone else.
Banks already suffered huge losses on non-performing loans so getting the
real estate assets back can at least put a floor beneath, which requires
them to kick out home owners not paying the mortgage fast.
Home owners are upset that, while banks get bailed out, they have got 0.
Now they smell blood in the water that bankers may not have proper paper
work so they decide ... 阅读全帖 |
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l*********m
发帖数: 16971 | 49 【 以下文字转载自 SanFrancisco 讨论区 】
发信人: lovefreedom (I am happy), 信区: SanFrancisco
标 题: Oakland韩裔杀人因为英语烂被嘲笑 (转载)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Apr 3 18:40:25 2012, 美东)
发信人: killcnn (killcnn), 信区: Military
标 题: Oakland韩裔杀人因为英语烂被嘲笑
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Tue Apr 3 17:32:51 2012, 美东)
(CNN) -- The man accused of killing seven people execution-style at a small
religious college in Oakland, California, "does not appear to be remorseful
at all," the city's police chief said Tuesday.
Former student One Goh, 43, told autho... 阅读全帖 |
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c*******g
发帖数: 203 | 50 他的原话：
"If I upset you, I am very very sorry. I just try to put it up here. I do
not mean to upset you. I thought that everyone sees it as a joke. I feel bad
if you do not take it as a joke. You know, I do not know what you go
through personally. But I am sure there are many challenges. And I just want
to say that...I came out here to talk to you personally, person to person..
."
two points:
1. I feel bad if you do not take it as a joke.
2. I am talking to you personally--person to person--not o... 阅读全帖 |
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